If you’re new to my blog, welcome!! I am Sade. A NYC based blogger, advertising professional, and entrepreneur. An ambitious woman, who is often terrified of taking risks, but does it anyway! When I’m not busy creating content that empowers others on my blog, or selling my Finesse Fitness water bottles on Amazon, I can be found gallivanting around the world or working out.

I’m excited to publish my first Q&A with questions that were sent to me from my lovely IG followers. Let’s get into it!

1. How do you balance everything? What’s your thoughts on balancing your job, relationship, and work for your brand? 

I don’t balance everything. I don’t even believe in balance. Balance implies that things are equally distributed in my life. They definitely are not! I maintain work-life harmony. I’ve figured out a system to maximize my time, so I can serve my job, myself, loved ones, my brand and other passions.

Establishing routines has greatly helped me find my work-life harmony. As well  planning my day ahead of time is key, I keep a planner with all my daily tasks written down. Additionally, I plan my week ahead every Sunday. Each morning I determine my top 3 priorities for the day, even on the weekends. Reading those goals sets the precedence for my day.

2. If you could write a book right now, what would it be about?

This is such a great question! If I were to write a book right now, it would be to a younger version of myself. It would encompass what I’ve learned about life, myself, and the early days of my personal development/adulthood. Can you keep a secret? I’ve actually started writing this book and my goal is to publish it by the time I’m 35.

3. What’s your self care routine?

I don’t have one self care routine. How I spend my self care time depends on my mood. I know some people consider a bubble bath, doing their nails, or a massage as self care. I associate those thing more as my maintenance routine. Cause clearly I’m a bit high maintenance. Self care for me involves doing the things I personally enjoy most. Including journaling, exercising, eating my favorite foods, reading, watching shows, dancing, or planning things pertaining to my dreams (y’all I love a good plan haha). 4. What qualities do you prioritize/seek in a partner? 

The top qualities I look for in a partner are confidence, assertiveness, kindness, ambition, and effective communication skills. I have a strong personality, so I appreciate someone who can match my fire, support it, and have fun. I fell into a trap of dating guys who didn’t match my fire until my current boyfriend. My boyfriend is the life partner I didn’t know I could have, and I’m so grateful for him.

My advice to people yearning  for a healthy relationship is to work on yourself, clearly communicate what you want early on, and be open minded.

5. What do you do when you need you but others need you as well?

This is an interesting question. Many of us exhaust ourselves to please others. I can relate, I’m super empathetic. I’m the type of person who acts like they don’t care as much as they really do. It’s kind of like a coping mechanism for me, because I’ll go out of my way for people who matter to me. Sadly, sometimes to my detriment.

Just last week, I broke down from pure mental, emotional and physical exhaustion. Because of this, I had to cancel on hanging out with my sister for her birthday. I know you’re probably reading this and thinking how dare you?! Believe me I felt way worse than any of your thoughts. However, I would have been no use to anyone in the state that I was in. Instead I talked to my boyfriend, napped, cleaned my house, listened to inspirational podcasts and danced around to my favorite music.

Sometimes you have to remind yourself to create better boundaries to prevent burn out. It’s a journey I’m still working on. I constantly fear disappointing people because disappointment is one of my personal triggers. However, I’ve learned that the most important relationship in life is the one with myself. Even if that means disappointing others, I still have to choose me. Moral of the story: Don’t be so loyal you end up being stupid.

I hope you enjoyed this post. Let me know in the comments if you’d like to see more Q&A’s.