For all of you who have issues committing whether it’s to a job, a brand, or a significant other, I feel you!!! I completely understand where you are coming from. I’m aware that my committing issues probably have to do with my upbringing somehow, or the fact that I’m a millennial and we can’t decide on anything. (At least that’s what all the old people say.)

Figuring out who I am and also what comes natural to me has been a difficult journey to say the least. I’m an advertiser and on a regular basis I question why I chose this field. Was it because I was fortunate to land an internship with one of the best ad agencies and thought “hey this must be my calling” so I should continue along in this field. Or maybe I really do love this and I did study marketing for four years for a reason. Nevertheless, I can be indecisive about “what my calling” really is. A couple things I’m sure about is my passion for helping others, fashion, and entrepreneurship. I aspire to connect all my passions and wake up everyday so happy in my profession, that I would work for free #goals.

I struggle with committing to anything because I always want to do the next best thing, not even the next best trend but really whatever pops up in my head as my calling at the moment. I struggle with starting one thing then quitting for the next thing without finishing the thing I initially started. However, I have to pat myself on the back because I’ve been consistently exercising, traveling, and trying new restaurants in NYC for the last year and nine months. Three hobbies I decided to take up after I graduated college. But outside of that…honestly I’m terrified of commitment because it’s vulnerable, it’s risky, it can make you feel trapped, and then there’s always the “what if there’s something better out there” thought. 

This commitment idea brings me back to my blog. I’ve always loved writing but was usually too scared to share it unless it was some type of professional writing. Personal writing was for me and my eyes only. But after some encouragement from one of my best friends, I decided to start a blog. I was so psyched for it, many people praised me for it, and I was like ALL RIGHT NOW, I got this. Then I set unrealistic goals of posting every week and stopped after the second post. Every week, I put publish a blog post on my to do list and every week since March that hasn’t happened… hahaha… how sad. But I’m turning a new leaf, I’ve realized waiting for days like this when I am utterly filled with inspiration and I’m not sure why are hard to come by, so I need to work on finding new ways to inspire, be disciplined, and get my motivation going!

Still working on that… but doesn’t it sound like a great start 🙂

img_3977Committing isn’t always fun. It’s grueling, difficult work that takes a lot of will power and consistency. It’s not always sunshine & rainbows and it doesn’t always go in our favor. Hence heart break, disappointment, failure etc… Committing often takes sacrifice, letting go of control, and taking a risk where you can either prosper or fail. But either way there’s something to learn. Committing is all about your mindset. Fear of commitment is a phobia we all have to overcome to live out our best most authentic life. In order to reap awesome results, you must take huge risks and allow yourself to be vulnerable. 

The season finale of Jane the Virgin captured committing perfectly. Committing to something or someone is continuously making a choice to do so. Even if you feel like giving up or it doesn’t feel “meant to be”, you still have the final say in what choice you decide to make. Despite the twists and turns life throws at you, it’s making a choice and sticking to it no matter what. With hard work and dedication, you’ll EARN your happy ending.

So my challenge for the rest of the year is to focus on identifying what matters to me the most and committing to it. I’m going to take it slow and steady. First things first, I’m going to commit to this blog and provide a new post every month. Eventually I’ll increase it to twice a month then maybe more. But for now…baby steps.

What are you going to commit too?

xoxo

Sadé