7 Things You Can Do To Boost Your Confidence

Life is 10% what you experience and 90% how you respond to it. Studies show that when people are put in situations where they are expected to fail, they often live up to that expectation. However when people are put into a situation where they are expected to succeed, they tend to do so. The same person with a different perspective on their outcome can make a world of a difference on their performance.

This week I’m been actively working on conquering self-doubt. I recently moved into a new apartment with my boyfriend, acquired more responsibility at work, and been reaching new heights with my e-commerce business. While these are all fantastic things, with great power comes great responsibility.  I’ve been feeling doubtful regarding my ability to level up. When I begin to feel self doubt, I aim to remind myself of reasons why I should choose confidence instead.

 

One of main outlets is writing. I recently found this really cool journal by a company called Knock, Knock in Target. Their journals focus on variety of different life purposes like self-doubt, self-love, venting, faith, etc. Check out some of their journals at knockknockstuff.com. I specially purchased the Totally Got This Inner-Truth Journal. Every time I write in it, I’m reminded of why I should never doubt my abilities. Writing in this journal and reading past entries really helps me to visualize the trajectory of my growth and where I still need to improve.

I’m on a quest to give fear, insecurity, and anxiety less power over my life. In this post, I’m going to share 7 of my favorite self-confidence boosters.

 1. Identify Your Trigger

We all have triggers that cause us to doubt ourselves. Maybe it’s a past failure, something hurtful someone said to you, or a specific insecurity of yours. For instance, one of my triggers is feeling or looking stupid in front of others. For years, I prided myself on being “flawless” and a bit of a “know it all.” Let’s face it, no one likes a know it all. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve been diligently working on reversing my perfectionism mindset and instead seeking ways to learn, grow, and not be hard on myself. Identifying your problem will help you overcome it.

2. Prepare Yourself

If you’re feeling anxious about a new task, just prepare yourself as much as you can for it. A couple weeks ago, I went on my first video shoot for work. When I say I was equally terrified and excited, I truly mean it. The whole week leading up to it, I was anxious. I kept telling myself to just take small steps and prepare myself as much as I could. Being organized and having meetings prior to the shoot to discuss details and expectations exponentially helped me excel during the process. Preparing yourself gives you peace of mind.

3. Act Like The Person You Want To Become

Fake it until you make it. While I’m a person who disdains people who aren’t authentic, sometimes you have to act the part to create a mental shift. When you act like the person you want to become, you learn how to control your inner dialogue. For instance, if you want to achieve high levels of success, study the behaviors of successful people and act like them until you reach your goal. I watch a self-improvement YouTube video every morning. At first, I didn’t think it would change my attitude much. Over time, I realized how much watching these inspirational videos strengthened my mindset.

4. Take Massive Action

You’re bound to either excel at something that’ll make you feel wonderful, or you’re bound to fail but be proud of yourself for even trying.

5. Seek Authenticity Instead Of Approval

Everyone’s not going to agree with you. Instead of looking to be a crowd pleaser, be your authentic confident self (or the self you’re striving to become).  People will respect and remember you more for being your true self and in return you’ll feel more confident in your abilities.

6. Do More Things That Make You Uncomfortable

Learn to make a mental association in your mind that a challenge, failure, or uncomfortable situation is a good thing. It does not depict a lack of your ability or intelligence. Just like you did when you were a baby, get back up and try again until you succeed. Putting yourself in uncomfortable positions on purpose will help you grow more tolerance for dealing with uncomfortable situations. Try spending a week saying yes to things that get you out your comfort zone.

7. Establish A Strong Support Group That Will Elevate You

Everyone needs a group chat of friends hyping him or her up. I have a circle of friends that make me feel bold and remind me of my greatness. Make sure to do an analysis of whom you keep around every couple months. As I’m sure you’ve heard before, you’re a sum of the five people you send the most time with.

Now go out and practice confidence. I challenge you to try the confident boosters I listed and determine which one work best for you. Only with practice will you strengthen your self-confidence.