You Get What You Tolerate

If you open your mind, the universe will lead you in the right direction. In order for abundance to come into your life, you have to open yourself up to accept abundance. To open yourself up you have to make the decision to do so. You need to figure out what you will and refuse to tolerate. What you accept and endure happening in your life shapes your journey. You are where you are today because of what you have tolerated.

While there are systems in place that can make it more difficult to accomplish your goals, there are also ways to work around something, if you just look at it from a different angle. Imagine your wildest dream. The one that you would feel super vulnerable telling someone else. I know you have one, so keep thinking. Visualize yourself living that dream. If you are struggling to visualize yourself, it’s probably because you don’t actually believe your dream is attainable. You have to stop allowing your mind to limit your abilities.  The mindset is the first part of the hurdle, your actions are the second. Only with action and consistency can you learn how to accomplish your goals. It’s truly what you don’t know that will hurt you.

It’s vital for each of us to mind OUR business. I know many of you all just read that and thought, “What does not being nosey really have to do with my tolerance?” That’s not what I mean by minding your business. I literally mean mind your business. Take care of yourself like you would a business. Know your strengths, weaknesses, income, losses, opportunities, threats, etc. Know the in’s and out’s of your temple. When your focus is minding your business, you will seldom feel inferior to anyone else. You’ll be fully invested in becoming better than you were yesterday.

After 2 weeks, people tend to remember 90% of what they BOTH say and do. If you say you’re going to become more conscious of what you tolerate, make sure you back it up with changes in your behavior. Determining what you’ll tolerate may cause uncomfortable confrontations with others. Many times when I’m nervous to ask someone something, I contemplate the opportunity cost (shoutout to everyone who remembers this from economics class). Opportunity cost is what you give up in order to do one thing instead of another.

For instance, if I don’t speak up when I feel offended by someone, the opportunity cost is they’ll most likely continue that behavior. Another example many of us can relate to is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). If you decide to party with your friends instead of getting adequate sleep before an important presentation, then you’re choosing to sacrifice your long term success for short term fun aka a “lit night.” I often suffer from the fear of missing out. Sometimes it’s so bad that I have to log out of all social media, or even turn off my phone, so I can focus on my craft.

That’s a sacrifice. While it’s difficult and you feel like you’re missing out, it’s necessary for growth. We have to make time for what matters to us. If you aren’t were you want to be in your life mentally, physically, financially, or spirituality, you’re not going to get there without putting in a large amount of time and effort. If you’re living in an unhappy home, you’re tolerating that. If you don’t like something in your life, stop allowing it to happen. Your legacy will not be built if you remain complacent.

1. Disrespect
2. Feeling inadequate
3. Poor communication
4. A negative environment
5. Fear
6. Bad eating habits
7. A routine life
8. Toxic friendships
9. Pressure to fit in with the crowd.
10. All work and no play

 

xoxo,

Sade